How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don't Have to

An Indispensable Tool for Becoming the Emotionally Mature Parent You Aspire to Be

Are you determined to parent differently than you were raised? Ready to break cycles, heal old wounds, and give your children the emotionally close relationship you always wanted? This is your roadmap.

Why This Book?
Written by USA Today bestselling author & family therapist Eli Harwood
Practical, no-nonsense guidance for parents and parents-to-be
Alphabetically organized for quick, targeted help—flip to the growth area you need, when you need it

Inside, You’ll Discover How to Heal From:
Complicated emotional states like anger, anxiety, body image struggles, and jealousy
Insecure habits such as people-pleasing, toxic comparison, blaming, and denial
The lingering effects of insecurity or trauma from your own childhood

What You’ll Gain:
Tools to heal yourself—so your children don’t have to carry your pain
Strategies to build a secure, emotionally close bond with your kids
Confidence to become the emotionally mature and reliable parent you wish you’d had

This compassionate reference guide will help you navigate the messy emotional moments of parenthood so that you can give your kids the invaluable gift of an emotionally secure parent. Start your healing journey today—for them, and for you.

ELI HARWOOD is a licensed therapist, bestselling author, and highly sought-after educator who has more than 19 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure connections with their children. Eli is the author of four books: How to Deal With Your ___ So Your Kids Don't Have To *As Much, Uniquely Us, Raising Securely Attached Kids, and Securely Attached. She is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one attachment relationship at a time. In addition to her clinical work, Harwood offers support through her virtual Secure Parent Program as well as in-person retreats to help parents break cycles and make secure legacies. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, 7 chickens and an extraordinary number of house plants.

”This beautiful book will give you the inspiration and tools you want to become the connected parent your children need.”
—Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent

“This book is a lifeline. Honest, practical, and deeply compassionate, Eli Harwood shows us how to heal ourselves so we can raise the next generation with more love and less baggage.”
—Kristin Gallant, co-founder of Big Little Feelings

“Raising Securely Attached Kids is one of my favorite parenting books to recommend, and Eli does it again. Parenting isn’t just about your child—it’s also about you, and clearing the emotional baggage that gets in the way of connection. This book gives you the insight and tools to get out of your own way and build the secure relationships every child deserves.”
—Dr. Mona, pediatrician and creator of PedsDocTalk

”Reading this book felt like sitting at the kitchen table with a wise friend. As a therapist and a dad, I trust this book. I found myself underlining lines, pausing to breathe, then trying a small change with my kids the same day. The whole tone invites you to keep showing up without shame. In every chapter you’ll find a next step, a kind reframe, a way to try again. If you’re trying to break cycles and build a sturdier bond with your kids, this is the book I’ll be handing you. Warm, practical, hopeful.”
—Matthias Barker, LMHC and founder of Estrangement.com

"The upbeat tone is the work’s strongest element; no matter how potentially dark a topic is, Harwood is quick to remind readers that they aren’t as helpless as they might feel. An enthusiastic and involving guide to helping yourself so that you can help others."
—Kirkus Reviews